Mother-daughter moments

Our Director tells me one day, "You have to go to Delhi. Make a presentation in front of top doctors in India and  convince them to give us some crore of rupees for a project. They'll going to chew you to bits, argue your every point with better informed and scientific counter-answers, and maybe have you for dinner. When you come back, you may need to see a therapist. By the way, the meeting is next week".

Okay, not exactly in those words, but that's what the meeting implies. Especially in this time frame :(

For moral support, I request my mother to please accompany me, and promised her one day of shopping. She agreed. Incidentally, the day of our flight was the day her sister and family were going to Dubai for an all-expense paid trip, via Kolkata.

So she tells me to book the tickets online. Myntra has tickets to Delhi, via Guwahati, reaching Delhi at 6 pm. Cost of ticket Rs 9000/-. Meanwhile the only tickets via Kolkata reach at 9 pm, and the price is Rs 11000/-

My irrational mother wants me  to get the ones stopping at Kolkata. The  stubborn me refuses.

One- The tickets are cheaper.
Two- We get to reach Delhi at 6 pm. Meaning we can have a reasonable dinner and a nice sleep.
Three-  We can meet my aunt and family everyday in Aizawl. Why pay more/waste time just for a few hours at an airport?

Mother's only rationale is that it would be nice to wait with my aunt in the airport. Minor cold war ensues. Mother huffs, 'Fine, I won't come along then!'. Stubborn me, 'Yes! Don't'. Men intervene. Aunt's flight is at 5 pm, we won't be at the same airport at the same time. So I win.

The question is, how can a dreamy, sentimental person like my mother have a practical, hard-headed, hard-hearted daughter like me?

The answer lies in the stars. She's a Piscean, and although she never read Linda Goodman's books, she conforms to her sunsign's directions and proves to be a little romantic, flamboyant and dreamy. While I, the Capricorn, am also proving how right sun signs can get.

Reflections

Sanga's whimpers wake me in the night. Maybe his sister hit him in his dreams, maybe he's cold, or hungry. Half-awake, I cover him with a quilt, put the bottle in his mouth, and just as quickly,  he goes back to sleep.

Most nights, I fall asleep just as quick. But on the bad nights, I toss and turn, the day's events unfolding like a movie in my head. I would recall the words I spoke, so candidly at the time...but in the middle of the night, they would come back to me, sinister, with doubled-meanings, and I would wonder if I hurt someone's feelings, or if I could have dealt with a certain incident more graciously.            

                                       

Sometimes I would think of all the things I should have done. Whom I should have called, what I should have said or written, at work, with friends or a relative. But I have to lie still, quadraplegic-like, or the kids would wake, and I would wait with baited breath for sleep, or morning to come rescue me.

Or more frequently, I would dwell upon my lack of social life. I would console myself, at least when I was single...I had friends! But now, it's just H and me, and the kids, and sometimes, our immediate family. Too many missed occasions, weddings, birthdays, dinners. Too many missed calls or even SMSes. And me, with too many routines, their all-important nap times, baby breakfasts, lunch, dinner and in-betweens. 

But frankly, my dear, I cannot change. Cannot forgive unmade beds, dirty floors, unwashed laundry, no matter if the old back is broken and the maids have gone. Cannot have the kids forgo their lunch or brunch or miss their naps, even if the clock will not give an extra hour to its 24. My true friends will forgive me, and wait, like me...for the kids to grow up, be big and strong, and wise beyond their years. Then we can have lunch, and dinner, shopping sprees, and travel to Timbuktu and the rest of the world.                     

                                                                                                                  

Khawsik sang vang a naupang kaih

 Tun tum chu tunlai a ka vei Mizo tawng ngei hian kan thawh ve ang e. Tangkaipui turin in lo chhiar hlauh takin. Word a ka ziah sa ka paste a, ka edit thiam tawh lo :P

Febrile seizure (Khawsik sang vang a kaih) hi naupang thla 6 atanga kum 5 mi velah a tam ber a. Naupang kaih chhan tlanglawn ber a ni bawk. Kum 2 hnuai lamah hian a tam lehzual a, kum 5 hnuah hi chuan kaih hi an nei zui tawh lo tlangpui.

Khawsik sang vang a kaih hi chhungkaw inchhun theih a ni a, unaute kaih thin nei chuan 10% in kaihna chance a nei a, a nu emaw a pa a naupan lai a  khawsik kaih a neih ve thin phei chuan 50% kaihna chance a nei bawk. 

An kaih hunlai chuan hlauhthawnawm thei hle mahse, khawsik vang a kaih hi thil hlauhawm a ni lova. A hnu a thluak lam chaklohna thlentu leh pangai zan lohna thlentu pawh a ni chuang lo tih hi hriat chian a tha.

In ven dan:

Naupang kum 2 hnuai lampang hi chu hritlang leh hrileng an kai hma em em a. An khawsik a san viau chuan an thluak la puitling lo chu kaih ‘trigger’ mai a awlsam bik a. Chuvang chuan naupang khawsik chu enkawl hma a tha ber.

1.  Nachhawkna (Paracetamol eg. Calpol, Sumo, UPC) pek hma a tha. Damdawi ei thei lo/duh lo chu mawng a hnawh chi (eg Just-in) ang te pawh hman mai a tha. Heta sawi tel ngai chu nachhawkna te hi damdawi dang ang bawkin side effect an nei vek a, darkar 4 aia zing lova pek hi a him ber. 
2. Naupang chu chei lum lutuk lo la, kawr thawl lam, awm leh ban khuh haktir la, inchhung thli thaw awm lohna a awm tir a tha. Vawt a tih viau pawhin tihlum vak vak hian an kaih duh hle. Shawl sin chung a puak lum te hian an kaih hma duh  lehzual tih hriat a tha. 
3.  Theihhram chuan chhungtin in thermometer (khawsik enna) hi kawl a tha. Khawsik chang a a san dan chhinchhiah hi a finthlak khawp mai. Taksa lumna pangai hi 37 degree Celsius or 98.8 degree Fahrenheit vel a ni a. Naupang khawsik 102⁰F (39⁰C) leh a aia sang anih hian an kaih tlangpui. 
4.  A khawsik chu a sat viau chuan, tui lum pip pep ah puan nem chiah la, fe deuhvin sawr la, chu chuan a taksa sa lai kha deh daih tum rawh.  Vur leh tuivawt erawh chu hman reng reng loh tur. 
5.  Febrile convulsion vawikhat nei tawh chuan a nei nawn leh duh tih hriat a, a khawsik san hma a tih daih vat vat a tha ber.

Naupang kaih awmdan:

Kut leh ke ti khawngin a mitmu a ti chho (meng pual) thei. Biak an hre lova, second 10 atanga minute 10 vel thleng a ni tlangpui. A din lai a nih chuan a tlu tawp thei a, zun te pawh a cheh thei. A then chu an luak a, an lei te pawh an seh thin. An taksa an vai vak vak loh pawhin an khawng tlat thei bawk. Thawk an lak loh chuan an hmai leh taksa te pawh a duk vek thei. Mahni fa leh tute kaih hmuh chu thil hrehawm tak a ni a, chiai loh hram hram a tha ber.

An kaih hnuah hian an mut a chhuakin an zawi viau thin a, hei hi chu a dan ve reng a ni.

Khawsik vang a kaih hi chi hnih ah then leh a ni a. Simple febrile convulsion chu minute 15 aiin a rei lova. Darkar 24 chhungin an kaih nawn lo bawk. Complex febrile convulsion ve thung chu minute 15 aiin a rei a, darkar 24 chhungin a kaih nawn a,  taksa che lai bik (eg, hmui tep char char, taksa peng chanve chauh che, etc) an nei thei.

A kaih a nih chuan:

1.     Pawm bet lovin khum/thuthlengah mut tir la. An taksa che vel chu khuahkhirh tum lovang che. An bul hnaiah intauh theihna leh anmahni tina thei a awm chuan laksan vat tur.

2.     Thil hmuam lai a neih chuan lakchhuah sak tur. A lei a seh chuan i kut zung tangin ven sak rawh. Fian leh slipper te ka a rawlhsak hi tih loh hram tur.

3.     Kawr tawt a hak emaw  a nghawngah muffler etc a awrh chuan phelh thawl sak rawh.

4.     Eitur/intur pek tum suh.

5.     A luak emaw, a chil hnang a tam a nih chuan a lu chu saisir indah la, zangthal a a mut chuan a hak a hlauhawm.

6.     A khawsik chu kan sawi tawh ang khian tihhniam i tum dawn nia.

Tih zui tur te:

1.   Naupang chu a kaih zawh veleh doctor pan pui a tha. Hospital a hlat  deuh phei chuan an kaih lai a hruai kher hi a tul lem lo. 
2.  A khawsik chhan chu hriat a enkawl vat a ngai. A tlangpuiin hritlang leh viral infection dang vang mai mai a khawsik an ni thin a. Natna hlauhawm dang vang eg. Meningitis (thluar har infection), encephalitis (thluak infection), brain abcess (thluak a hnai awm) a ni lo tihchian a ngai. Heng natna hlauhawm vang a kaih hi chu Complex febrile convulsion  kan sawi tawh ang khian an awm duh bik. Doctor chuan damlo a en in a hre hrang thei mai thin. 
3.  Simple febrile convulsion kan tih ang ah khi chuan test tam tak tih a ngai lo. Mithiam hovin an lo chhuina ah chuan CT scan te, EEG leh Lumbar puncture (hnungzang atanga thluak leh a har kar a tui test) te hi tih awmzia a nei lo tih an hmu. Amaherawh chu:

·        thla 9 aia naupang emaw kum 5 aia upa a nih emaw

·        a kaih vawikhat naah temperature sang vak lo emaw

·        Darkar 24 chhunga vawi 1 aia tam a kaih emaw,

·        A taksa thenlai chauh a kaih emaw,

·        Minute 15 aia rei a kaih emaw

·        Doctorin a en a thil tha lo a hmuh emaw

·        a kaih hnuah a awmdan a pangai zan loh chuan

heng test kan sawi te hi tih a ngai thei.

A pawimawh berah chuan Simple febrile convulsion hi natna hlauhawm a ni lo tih hi hriat a tha a. A hnu zelah rilru lam a chaklohna leh hnufualna a nei ang tih te a chhungte chuan kan hlau thin a. Kaih natna a neih chhunzawm zel te kan hlau thin.  A ven dan leh enkawl dan hriat a, a hlauhawm hun a doctor pan nachang hriat hi a tul (a chung a kan sawi tawh ang te khi). Kum 5 an tlin hi chuan a reh hlen tlangpui a, an nunah harsatna an neih zui phah bik chuang lo tih kan hrereng dawn nia.

A dying blog

Some wise guy predicted that Facebook would wipe out personal blogs. I think that's happening to mine.
It's just that nothing of much importance happens to someone as ordinary as me. And my facebook friends know I hardly even have status updates. So this could be the beginning of the end for this old blog. Totally deleting it seems a little harsh, it's like a diary of sorts. Maybe when Ruatfeli grows up and can read all the stuff I posted about her, she'll delete it herself :P

We're starting this project on building a house of own. Maybe I'll do a blow by blow post on that.

So far, we walled up the entire area because some people are, as some people can be, pretty unscrupulous. Then we put up a retaining wall, which we filled up with soil. Which we later decided was to be a water tank, given the scarcity of water, so we got people to remove the soil again. Huge waste of time and money, but we probably made the right decision because water harvesting is a must.

Then we found us an architect to design the house. We didn't give him an estimate of our budget, just told him what our dream house would have, garage, this many bedrooms, a curved staircase(!) etcetera. So he went all out and designed us what I think is going to be a beautiful house. But now I'm terrified about where we're going to get the money. We might have to rob a bank!

Anyhow, H went and got back from a month's training at Tata hospital, and he decided no more dilly-dallying. So he got some people to dig the 'holes' for putting up the 'columns' or whatever they call it, and they're almost done. The land is rocky as rambo, we might end up paying through our nose even for that little bit of work.

I spare myself the trouble of worrying about the harsh work, and instead dream of red kitchens and blue bathrooms. Hopefully in a four or five years we'll actually have a house of our own.

Aizawl a motor khalh etc

Hmanni lawk a motor khalh ve tan khan, motor ka khalh a ka harsatna tawh te atangin point tlem kan ziak ve teng.
Driver te tan:

• Signal pe lovin ding thut suh. Chho fahranah taxi kan zui chhova, passenger an mitsir a an hmu an han ding thut mai hi chu keini driver junior tan chuan buaina tham. A zawn chiahah i din loh pawn passenger khan a hman loh phah awm si lo che a, a chhak deuhvah, rem deuh laiah signal pein han ding la, i hnung a mite leh lehlam atanga lokal te tan chuan sawisel bo i ni mai tur.
• Kawngsir a din dawnin, kawng kawi lai takah hian ding lo thei hram ila. A lehlam atanga motor lokal a hmuh theih si lo, tlan pelh dawnin a harsa lehzual bik. Chhovah phei chuan buaithlak ve tak a ni.
• Kawngsir a din dawnin, motor din tawh na sa ah ding lo thei bawk ila. Lehlam lehlam a motor a din chuan kan Mizoram kawng zimah hian inpelh a harsa. Two wheeler kawngsir a ding pawh hi kawng te ah chuan hnawk vet vet tak a ni. Han tai hlek ila in rang ve mang bawk si lo, keini kan rang nghal ruai  bawk si.
• Speed lai deuhvin tlan bik suh. Chho ah chuan 20 kmph vel tal a tlan loh chuan 1st gear a ngai a, petrol man to ropui si. Kuhva in han insiam a, zial in han fawp a, phone in han be hmanhmawh lo lutuk hi chu a hnung a mi tan chuan a lawmawm vak lo.
• Two-wheeler i khalh vang khan kal hmasa ber tur i ni lo. Harsa tawkin motor kan han 'in-side' a, kal thei dawn maw tih veleh two-wheeler rawn inrawlh lut zung zung hi chu pen fawk an chakawm thei khawp mai.
• Car atangin bawlhlawh paih suh, i chhuk hunah bawlhhlawmbawmah paih mai rawh. I fate leh tu te zawng zawng pawh bawlhhlawhbawm a bawlhhlawh paih zirtir rawh.

Mipuite tan:

• Insa i nih chuan i kawng nek danin i mizia i ti lang. Bungrua-brick, lung etc etc in unload a nih pawhin, kawngsir thei ang berah thiar khawm tir rawh. Perek leh thil hriam dang phei chu motor ke in a ngeih lo nasa a nia.
• A huhova i kal vang khan motor hlauh loh phah suh. Inkhawm bang i ni emaw, sikul bang i ni emaw, inkhel en zo i ni emaw, kawngsirah kal hram ang che. A huhova kal vang a a tlar a kal kher a ngai lo, sut palh chuan a na thovang. Horn pek nawn pawh a inthiar fihlim duh miah lo hi chu ngeiawm ve hranpa.
• Kawng i cross dawn pawhin motor tlan laklawh loh lai chang hram rawh. Muang fahran a mi speed lai veka, ka van 'cool' em, inti niawm fahran a kawng cross hi chu mumang lamah tal tai in chakawm.

Kan vai tan:

• Motor lei dawn chuan a park na tur garage hi sa/luah hram hram ang u. Kan in zawn a kawng hi kan in in a chhawm tel lo tih hriat thar a tha. 
• Mipui ke a kal hi zahthiam an ngai, chep tawk tawkah ip titihin an kal laiin car leh two-wheeler kawngsirah kan park leh si. A tlan lai motor te hi chuan kawng chu kan mamawh, mahse a sir a ding hi chu mipui kawngsir a kal ai chuan an pawimawh lo  fe zawk. 

Food for thought:

     Sorkar hian kawngsir a motor dah a khap thei si lova, an dah theih lohnan sidewalk hi siam ta vek mai se kan hlawk phian ang em?